Anonymous asked: What do I do? The sweetest guy wanted to ask me out today, I avoided him because there is a guy who lives in Perth (I live in Adelaide) and I am in love with him, we Skype whenever we can, and I am convinced he is literally perfect for me. I feel bad though, because I knew that if I didn't avoid the other boy he would've asked me out and I would've had to say no because I don't feel the same way. I've never met the guy I like in Perth, but I can tell we are meant for eachother.

I will try answer this as simply as I can, because I think the answer is quite obvious. 

I think you should give the sweet guy a chance. I know you’re in love with the guy in Perth, and I think majority of people have been in love with someone they met over the internet but not in person, but honestly - in the long run I’d say the guy from Adelaide is a better option. There’s no telling what this guy from Perth is like in person, and I know you guys Skype every day and I know you’ll tell me I’m wrong and you know this guy better than anyone else, but the truth is, until you have met him personally and spent time with him one on one, you just don’t. Give this sweet guy a chance, don’t jump into anything, but get to know him before you avoid him. He might be the person that’s made for you, and if you lose him for the guy in Perth then who knows what you’re missing out on. What if something happens with the guy from Perth and it goes wrong, and you’re left wondering what could have been with the sweet guy? 

I’m not saying shut someone out or anything and choose, I’m just saying to get to know the sweet guy better. Only time will tell.

- Natalya

Anonymous asked: i am so depressed, but i have no reason to be. there are people out there that have fucked up families and no friends and get bullied. when i think about it, my life is actually good, i have a lot of friends and my family is really supportive and i dont get bullied that much, but the smallest things can make me upset. i get jelous easily and those days when i wake up and look like shit i just get really depressed. i want to cut myself coz i hear it helps, but im scared of the pain.

I know how this feels, and I promise you that eventually it gets better. Here’s the best advice that you’re ever going to hear. Stick it out. Put your chin up, and hold strong because it fades. The greyness clears eventually and instead of wanting to sleep all the time, you won’t be able to sleep because you do actually want to wake up. Whether it’s because of a boy, or because of a friend, or anything else, I promise you with every inch of my being that things will clear, and you will feel better eventually - don’t doubt me for a second. You have to give it time of course, because it won’t just happen over night. But you have to fight this with every inch of your being, because if you don’t, it WON’T get better. You know you’re not ugly, and stop picking out your flaws. I guarantee you that some day, someone WILL fall in love with each and every one of your imperfections - and I preach this to everyone because it’s true. Cutting does not help, I have cut for a long time and it gets you no where. It is a quick outlet for pain, but soon becomes addicting and I do NOT advise you to start, unless you want an even harder road to get better. 

- Natalya 

Anonymous asked: i like being at school more than at home. i like being at home when my mum isn't home. she yells a lot and sometimes hits me for stupid reasons. i've become really sensitive to any form of yelling or stern voices. when she yells i just start shaking even if shes not yelling at me. i hate it when people argue and i have to drown myself in music. when i was little she used to hit me a lot for not eating my lunch. i flinch at any sudden movements. my self esteem is non-existent because of her.

So do i, i hate school but i’d rather be there than at home sometimes. Because when i get home, it’s so fucking shit like everything. Yelling, hitting, screaming, tears, one of the reasons i cut or used to anyways.  But i do understand where you are coming from, not with my mother but with older guys because of an incident that happened when i was younger. I fear any man over the age of 18 because i’m scared he will rape me, or hit me, kill me, abuse me, or hurt me in any way possible. Sometimes you need an escape, somewhere where you can go where no one knows you, where it’s just you and the world. No parents, friends, family, school, no stress. You need to find that place. I drown myself in music but sometimes that isn’t enough and i need more. I need some place new. Find something you love and never give up on it. Find something that makes you forget about everything else around you. 
-Tanya x 

Anonymous asked: WHY CANT I JUST DIE, I COULD NOT CARE LESS ABOUT ANYONE ELSE RIGHT NOW I JUST WANT MY LIFE TO COME TO AN END SO I DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH BITCHES AND PARENTS AND RUMOURS AND BULLIES ANYMORE, FFS WHY CANT I JUST DIE

Because if you died then you wouldn’t be able all this bullshit and actually live your life, i’m guessing your in highschool? Well guess what? After highschool, i promise you things will change. Those rumours will finally stop because that’s what highschool is all about, bullies, rumours, fake friends, bitches, boys, everything. It’s all fucked up and it’s all in one place. How we survive? I’d like to know that one myself because I’m barely surviving there but you know what you’ve got to do? You have to keep your head up high, smile and prove you are better than them because you are. You’re breathing aren’t you? you’re alive? You’re here and you should be fucking thankful for that.

-Tanya x 

Anonymous asked: i really dont want to be alive anymore. i just want to die and have no worries, no problems. every minute of the day i wish that somehow, something would kill me. whenever im in the car, i wish for another car to crash into me and kill me. whenever im in a feral area, i wish that someone would just randomly shoot me or stab me. my life isnt even as bad as other people's, but i just really want to die. and i want all the people that hate me to feel guilty after i die, coz they make my life hell.

I understand that i really do. But do you think if you were dead things would be better off? Imagine your family and the pain they would have to go through after you would be dead. Imagine the person who would find you dead, just laying there from overdosing, cutting, hanging yourself or however you would kill yourself, imagine their reaction. They would be scarred for life. They will forever remember you as the girl/boy who killed her/himself because they weren’t strong enough to stay alive another day and nobody knew why. Do you honestly want that? Do you want to be the that person left their pain behind on everybody else? Nobody wants you dead. I can promise you that things will get better. I can’t guarantee you that life won’t be shit because it will be you will have it’s up’s and downs, but that’s life and it will never be perfect just like you will never be perfect. Sure there will be days where you will want to kill yourself, heck you could wake up everyday wanting to kill yourself but you’ve got to overcome that and think to yourself no, i’m better than that, i’m stronger than this and i will get through this because think of it like this. Tomorrow could be the best day of your life, you just have to wake up and get there. Whenever something bad happens, you know something good will come out of it or something good will follow after it. Life doesn’t last forever. Make the most out of each day. It gets better, i promise.

-Tanya x

Anonymous asked: my brother hung himself 5 years ago.when i found out, i felt my heart break in a million pieces, i can remember 5 years ago, i remember everything his dad said to mum and the family, im now 15, i miss him so much and i just wish i could spend one more day with him! i would do anything, im in tears writing this, because some of my close friends dont even know about this. I dont want to go to a councillor i just thought it might help me get it off my chest. you dont even need to reply to this.

Wow that is just so sad, I am so sorry
For your loss. I am speechless.

Anonymous asked: its not as simple as just walking past him and waving though, we havent spoken ever since the break up and whenever i see him, his always smiling and being happy and it makes me want to cry. i just feel like running up to him and giving him the biggest hug and for him to tell me everythings okay, but i guess things happen for a reason. thankyou for the advice though, makes me feel much better that ive talked about it. xx

its okay, we will always be here to talk about whatever it is that you need to get off your chest. xxx

Anonymous asked: i'm at the lowest point of my life. nothing is going right. every night before i go to bed i hope that i wont wake up in the morning. i hate everything, i can't focus and i can never sleep. i cut, every night, it makes me feel so much better, it makes everything go away. i know i need help but i can't find the guts to ask anyone for help or talk to anyone. i just don't know what to do anymore.

Okay you need to listen to me. You know what? This is actually my life story right here. I read this thinking, did i just write this? You and I are going to do something. We’re in this together. No more cutting. Cutting is what makes us feel so low, all though yes at the time it feels like nothing could be better because the pain is everything you’ve ever wanted but afterwards you realize the pain you caused yourself and the scars only remind yourself of the mistakes you made. Listen to me when i tell you this, you are beautiful. I swear to god i mean that from the bottom of my heart and you have EVERY reason to be here right now. You cut yourself, you cry yourself to sleep at night hoping you won’t wake up the next morning where as people are fighting to live for one more day. It feels kind of selfish doesn’t it, but also feels right at the same time? Cutting doesn’t make everything go away, at the time yes it does but afterwards no it doesn’t. You need to stop. Put that razor down. This is what you will do.
1. You will pick up the blade and look at it.
2. Look at your scars, maybe write something over them to stop you from cutting and to realize what it’s doing to you.
3. You will put the blade down.
4. You will then walk away, and be stronger than you ever were because you don’t deserve to cut. I promise you. You are better than that. Trust me, i understand. 
I will always, always be here for you to talk to. Always.

-Tanya x 

Anonymous asked: My best friend is depressed. She hates herself. She hates life. Shes sad about family. Her friends, everything. She feels shes not accepted and stuff. I dont know what to do. She says shes fine, but I know shes not. She lies to everyone and says she is, but I know shes not.. What should I do? Shes helped me when I was depressed.. but shes not opening up. and if she does.. its only mildly.. I need help.. what should I do??

The most important thing you need to do is be there for her. Randomly go up to her and hug her and tell you love her sometimes, and here is your job: make her feel wanted. Usually, people don’t actually hate life and aren’t actually depressed, but instead are crying out for some love and attention. Don’t give her too much that she takes advantage of it, but do nice things for her like writing anonymous letters telling her she’s one of the most beautiful girls you’ve ever seen, and spend lots of time with her. She’s most likely just feeling like no one gives a fuck, so when she’s in a bad mood, sit her down and hug her. Look her in the eye and tell her that you will ALWAYS care and that you’re not going anywhere, and that as a bestfriend you will do anything to help her - which includes listening to her problems if she needs to vent. Just show her lots of love and encourage others to aswell (not so much that she realises you’re all just coddling her and gets annoyed) but just enough so she realises she has people who have her back and aren’t going to walk out on her. It also will help her if you have a good talk to her and give her a bit of a ‘harden up’ speech, though you have to be REALLY careful with this because it’s a really delicate subject and you have to do it right. After comforting her and showing that you care, tell her to hold her chin up and see the future in a more positive way, because whether she likes it or not, the haze does clear eventually. Scroll through our blog and look for other posts on depression, we’re sure to have many which also describe the same situation as yours. Best of luck.

- Natalya